No matter if they’re a one-time-only or a regular occurrence, orgies are events that you shouldn’t miss. We’ve all seen them in movies and TV and read about them in books, but are these sex parties real? Well, in short — yes, they are.
Every time a group of at least four people has intercourse, we can safely say they participated in an orgy. So, these events don’t require tons of people to be successful. And if you’re planning to go to a sex party like this, it’s best to know some rules beforehand to have the time of your life. Luckily, in the following seven paragraphs, we’ll list some of the most important orgy tips for you.
Have Some Research
Every orgy guide for beginners goes into the sex bit first. This is, however, a big mistake since it doesn’t prepare newbies for these parties at all. The first and most significant thing anyone willing to attend orgies should know is that there’s a bit of research to do before you can go and plow your way around a massive mansion in Beverly Hills.
So, if you get an invitation by mail, be sure to study all the details. From the dress code to the location and time of the party, memorize all the details so that your first group sex experience doesn’t come to a halt due to a stupid mistake. Most of these parties have a dress or mask code, so make sure you wear something suitable. Otherwise, you might not even get inside to join in on the action.
Communicate With the People Involved
You can think about attending an orgy for the first time as if you’re going to your first day at school. Although the concept is nowhere near similar, the pressure of that very first time is the same.
To break the ice, we suggest being social. Talk a bit with everyone, ask random questions, and be polite so that you get the next invitation. Don’t expect any deep conversations, and don’t ask complex questions. Be chill.
On the other hand, feel free to express your attraction to other people. Everyone attending is expecting to experience flirting, so don’t feel stupid if you tell someone how you’d like to make it with them in the next few hours. The same goes for rejection. If you don’t fancy someone coming up to you — tell them. They won’t be offended, and neither should you if your advancements fall short.
Set Your Limits
Next up, you should think about boundaries. Before you go, think about what you want from this occasion, what you’re willing to participate in, and stand your ground once you go there. If you don’t feel comfortable with something, feel free to express yourself. No one will take your ideas negatively, as everyone has a set of limits as well.
In case you’re going with a partner, talk about things you’re willing to tolerate beforehand. In case you don’t, things might get awkward once you get there. It’s okay to stay by each other’s side all the time if you feel like it. Communication is once again key to having a successful first-time experience at any social gathering, let alone at an orgy.
Have No Expectations
Unfortunately, not all orgies turn out great. Just like any party, a sex one depends on many factors, including the host, people attending, atmosphere, and much more. Therefore, it’s key that you don’t set high expectations, especially for your first time. Even if the party looks great and there are hotties around, you might not fit in due to a lack of orgy experience. On the other hand, your partner might not feel the same buzz.
If you keep your expectations grounded, even the dullest of orgies might turn out great. Don’t imagine any Eyes-Wide-Shut stuff. Most orgies are just a group of strangers in an apartment with a table full of food, looking to meet porn stars. However, the reality is that there won’t be more than one girl with big tits and one stud with a six-pack and a massive penis.
Avoid Getting Wasted
To have a good time, it’s best not to get wasted. This is the same principle you should follow when going to any party, let alone a sex one. But why? Well, alcohol and sex with strangers aren’t the smartest things to do. You might regret your action the day after. On the other hand, you might forget about safe sex and STIs.
However, it’s not just about participating in safer sex. While intoxicated, you can come up with all sorts of stupid ideas and make yourself look like an idiot. This will ruin your chance of getting an invitation the next time. After all, it’s key to leave a good impression of yourself, at least for your first time. Gatherings like these hold many promises that can come to waste if you act like a drunken buffoon.
Ensure That You’re Clean and Safe
The only real downside to orgies is that they can cause a small epidemic of sexually transmitted diseases. The thing is, with so many strangers fucking around, someone’s bound to have a certain infection that can spread and infect many others. This is why it’s key to at least look after yourself and your partner. Make sure to practice safe sex using condoms and to change them whenever you change a partner. Sure, it might be a bore to do so, but it’s the only way to keep yourself and others safe from STIs.
Enjoy Being in the Moment
The reality of orgies is that they’re here to allow people to have a good time. They’re all about fun, so you should stay in the moment and not overthink stuff. The thinking part is reserved for days before the actual event. So, freely engage in sexual activity and don’t get any stupid ideas like filming amateur porn videos.
If you fancy someone, let them know. If you don’t like someone hitting on you, do the same. Feel free and think about the whole deal as one giant opportunity to have fun, meet people, and have unforgettable group sex. In many ways, orgies are pure nihilism, so be prepared for that old seize-the-day way of thinking.
